Writing Your Personal Vows – 5 Essential Tips
Your wedding day is one of the most meaningful moments of your life, and nothing captures its emotional depth quite like your personal vows. Whether you're planning a romantic Brisbane garden ceremony or an intimate beachfront wedding on the Gold Coast, your vows are your chance to speak directly from the heart.
As a Brisbane wedding celebrant and Gold Coast wedding celebrant, I’ve guided countless couples through this beautiful process. If you’re unsure where to start, here are the top five considerations when writing your Personal Vows for your very special wedding ceremony.
1. Speak from the Heart – Not a Script
Your vows aren’t meant to be poetry unless that’s your natural voice. Speak the way you talk in real life. Use your own words, your own tone, and your own sense of humour or sentimentality. The most unforgettable vows are honest, raw, and deeply personal, and from the heart.
💡 Tip from a wedding celebrant Brisbane couples love: Think about what your partner would most want to hear from you on that day and not what Pinterest says you should say.
2. Reflect on Your Journey Together
Before you start writing, take a moment to reflect. When did you know that your partner was “the one”? What key moments changed your relationship? What have you grown through together as a couple? These reflections create meaningful anchors in your vows and will help your Gold Coast wedding celebrant craft a ceremony that’s uniquely yours.
3. Include Promises for the Future
While it's lovely to reminisce, Personal Vows are also about looking forward. What do you promise your partner in the years to come? Will you always laugh at their “Dad Jokes”? Will you be their rock through life's storms? As a Brisbane wedding celebrant, I often suggest couples write a mix of romantic and playful promises, this balance making the vows memorable and moving.
4. Keep It Short and Sweet
Your vows don’t need to be long to be powerful. Around two hundred words is more than enough to say what’s in your heart while keeping the ceremony flowing beautifully. As your Gold Coast wedding celebrant, I’ll have your vows with me in writing for you to read them during your Ceremony.
5. Make It Yours – Not Google’s
While online templates can help get your thoughts flowing, avoid copying vows word-for-word. Your wedding is unique, and your vows should be too. Be brave. Be real. Your partner will love you even more for it. If you're working with a Brisbane wedding celebrant or Gold Coast wedding celebrant like myself, we can review your vows together to make sure they feel authentic and aligned with your ceremony vision.
Final Thought: Let Love Lead the Way …
Writing your Personal Vows is one of the most heartfelt parts of planning your wedding ceremony. Whether you’re marrying in the vibrant city of Brisbane or the stunning surrounds of the Gold Coast, your vows are the emotional heartbeat of the ceremony.
If you’re ready to create a wedding that reflects your love story, I’d be honoured to be your wedding celebrant Brisbane or wedding celebrant Gold Coast.